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Sunday, February 7, 2010
Dragon Tattoo
Butterfly Tattoo Designs
Free Tattoo
Saturday, February 6, 2010
Breaking up the big freeze

(Photo from the author of Staying Awake)
Job 28:25-30:
Who has cut a channel for the torrents of rain, and a way for the thunderbolt, 26to bring rain on a land where no one lives, on the desert, which is empty of human life, 27to satisfy the waste and desolate land, and to make the ground put forth grass? 28“Has the rain a father, or who has begotten the drops of dew? 29From whose womb did the ice come forth, and who has given birth to the hoarfrost of heaven? 30The waters become hard like stone, and the face of the deep is frozen.
If you're wondering what the photograph above is, it's a rather up close and personal view of the auger blades of the new snow blower our church recently purchased. This was something that we went back and forth on for years on whether it was "worth it" to purchase one. We would bring it up now and then at church, and rarely at vestry meetings, and then always talk ourselves out of it. "Oh, we could buy it, and end up only using it once or twice some winters. It's just another thing to break down."
Another problem is, I'm the person who normally shovels the snow, partially because I'm the junior warden, but partially because I have always enjoyed the quiet time doing it, in a "monastic work" sort of way. For most folks, the snow magically disappeared, so the need for a snow blower didn't seem apparent. Since I liked doing it, and I had the time, it was not a big deal.
Last year, however, things changed. I started having less time, as some things with my work schedule changed. Also, for some reason, we always seemed to have snow on Friday or Saturday, and last winter it was almost like every Saturday I was shoveling, to get church ready for Sunday. For a lot of reasons, it got to be something that started "owning me." I had created an expectation that was partly real, partly my own projections of others' expectations upon me, and partly a few real expectations that I get it done to a certain set of specifics. I started being in situations where I had been tied down at the last minute and had to hurry through the job, and was feeling certain levels of disapproval now and then. It made me feel caught in the middle, knowing what I needed but really uncomfortable to say so.
I realized a snow blower would make my life easier, but I had a lot of reasons why I felt "now's not the time to ask." So I didn't. I could have asked others to help, but I seldom did. My life (at least on the weekends) is more flexible than folks who are "householders." I didn't feel right asking others to change their plans on the weekends for something I used to have time to be solely responsible for. I also knew you can only cry "help" so many times before people get tired of it.
But you know the old saying..."better the devil you know, than the devil you don't know." So, like the ice that collects on the sidewalks, I was "frozen." Frozen as in that passage in Job. It wasn't a crisis, it wasn't even anything that I can put my finger on as good/bad/indifferent. It was just frozen. I was okay with the job (I like the exercise, frankly), but the time frames were freezing me in place and freezing my imagination. I could not bring myself to ask the church for a snow blower. I was afraid it would seem "all about me." After all, I would be the one to use it 95% of the time.
It took our interim priest to point it out. He was quite surprised that the church in the northernmost reaches of our diocesese, the place in the diocese "most likely to get snow", didn't own a snow blower. He simply said, "you all need to get one." So we did.
Take a look at that picture of the auger blades. That thing breaks up the ice like you would not believe! We got a good snow blower, a two stage one, that has a powerful auger and a blower driven by a powerful motor. What I discovered is, well, honestly, driving it is a blast! It has taken what used to be a two hour job and turned it into a 45 minute job for me.
But the truth was, "the face of my deep was frozen." It took an outside observer to see it, and to give me permission to ask for what I needed.
How many times in our own prayer lives are we afraid to ask for something for ourselves? How many times do we get ourselves in a life rut, and accept it, often even without complaint or an awareness that it IS a rut, until the rut becomes so deep it's hard to drive out of it? The heck of it is, so many times, we would do it gladly and willingly. We might not be a single bit resentful of the rut. But we freeze. We convince ourselves, "it's just not gonna happen, so why wish for what you know you can't have?" We are mostly content and occasionally unhappy. It's not "that bad," so we don't worry about it.
This, I believe, is the value of the prayers of others. It's the value of a community of faith. What we no longer see as us having a need for "deliverance," others see right away. It's easy to see the "major" things from which we need to be delivered. But the "minor" ones are more obscure, more veiled. We might not see them, but those who care for us and pray about us, do. In that "seeing the frozen parts of others," we deliver them...and they deliver us. Those "minor deliverances" add up, and our being relieved of them renews not just our souls, but the souls of those who care for us--thanks be to God!
Friday, February 5, 2010
Tattoos and Women - A Double Dose of Art
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If Clergy Could Bill for Weddings like Physicians
If Clergy Could Bill for Weddings like Physicians
by Kirkepiscatoid
Recent studies show that the average wedding has increased not only in price, but complexity, in the last four decades; unfortunately, although weddings can now run in the tens of thousands of dollars, couples still seem to think that $25 or $50 slipped in the officiating clergy person's hand is sufficient payment for services rendered. This document is a more realistic breakdown of the complete gamut of services rendered by clergy in wedding participation. Clergy are encouraged to create a base fee for "unit of service" and in this billing sheet, consider the top item in each category as the "basic unit of service." As you work down the levels of each category in the Clergy Encounter Form for each category, we have provided a suggested increase in unit of service for each level of clergy encounter. Circle the units of service for each category as applicable. Then, simply add the units of service times your base fee for a single unit of service and present the bill to the happy couple, making checks payable to your discretionary fund.
Clergy Wedding Encounter Form
Part A. Pre-Nuptial Counseling
Units of Service and Description of Encounter
1 Unremarkable counseling experience for couple and clergy
2 Couple seems ignorant or unaware counseling required; thought they wanted to get married there "because it's a cute little church" or "they wanted to get married at the Cathedral," etc.
2 Unremarkable counseling experience for clergy; minor issues discovered by couple that were easily resolved in session(s)
2 Minor blow-up between couple with minimal clergy consternation
3 Unremarkable/minor issues for couple; clergy begins to get sick feeling tip of iceberg has been touched on major issue but couple seems to blow this issue off
3 Moderate issues between couple uncovered in counseling with no additional sessions required
4 Moderate or major issues uncovered in counseling requiring additional sessions or postponement of wedding date
5 One or both of couple bursts into tears, runs crying/screaming from rectory, squeals off in car, possibly leaving one of the couple crying in front of clergy
_____ Other counseling mishap, not otherwise specified (please document)
Note: If either "5" is circled, or a NOS mishap carries a value of "5" or greater, submit billing. Pray they do not suddenly make up and find a Justice of the Peace or take a trip to Las Vegas.
Part B: Pre-wedding Planning
B1: The Bride
Units of Service and Description of Encounter
1 Normal mature female
2 Naive, blushing, possibly virginal
2 Slightly immature in chronological and/or psychological age
2 Normal with somewhat annoying parent(s)
2 Slightly bossy
3 Pregnant
3 Normal with "helicopter" parents
3 Seems to think wedding is "all about me" but parents relatively normal
4 Spoiled with indulgent and/or "helicopter" parents
4 Seems to think wedding is "all about me"; parents indulgent; tend not to challenge bride
4 Unaware she is being grossly abused or manipulated by betrothed
5 Bridezilla
B2: The Groom
Units of Service and Description of Encounter
1 Normal mature male
2 Nerdy/geeky, possibly virginal
2 Slightly immature in chronological and/or psychological age
2 Normal with somewhat annoying parent(s)
2 Relatively normal but appears to be thinking with his "little head" rather than his "big head" about some issues
3 Normal with mother who does not think betrothed is "good enough for her son"
3 Seems somewhat absent, distant, or unwilling to challenge bride-to-be on plans
4 Parents running the show; groom-to-be just shrugs and looks sheepish
4 Combative with betrothed, parents from either side, or clergy
4 Unaware he is being grossly abused or manipulated by betrothed
4 Unaware bride-to-be is pregnant
5 Flaming southbound end of northbound horse
Part C: The rehearsal/rehearsal dinner
Units of Service and Description of Encounter
1 Goes off without a hitch
2 Minor last minute changes and/or issues
2 Issues with small children
3 Seating chart(s) definitely need to be changed, most likely due to "ex-es"
3 Issues with really poorly behaved small children
3 Clergy has to explain to couple that songs with vague or overt references to nookie are generally not appropriate for a wedding
4 Hazard pay for dealing with overly drunken/stoned members of wedding party or clergy required to break up verbal altercation
5 Full blown hissy fit by any member of wedding party or clergy required to break up physical altercation
6 Law enforcement personnel called, or relative offers clergy large sum of money to refuse to perform the service
Part D: The Wedding (NOTE: Unlike parts A-C, and E, circle ANY and ALL service levels that apply rather than "best level of service")
Units of Service and Description of Encounter
1 Beautiful, touching and/or meaningful
2 Beautiful and touching but someone committed minor flub or children in service got flustered
2 Annoying photographer
2 Bad Soloist
2 Annoying parents/relatives/members of wedding party except bride/groom
3 Annoying bride/groom
3 Annoying photographer who totally ignored clergy instructions about what parts of the service may not be photographed
4 Badly behaved small children
4 REALLY bad soloist
4 Clergy retreats to rectory shortly afterward to smoke or say, "My God, I'm glad that's over"
5 Bride's water breaks or delivers baby during service
5 Wedding from Hell
Part E: The Reception
1 Clergy only required to give short opening prayer, meet and greet
2 Clergy performs minor pastoral care/counseling for less than 4 relatives/friends
3 Clergy performs minor pastoral care/counseling for 4 or more relatives/friends
3 Clergy provides minor pastoral care/counseling to ex-flame who attended wedding to pretend he/she is "happy for them."
4 Attendee suddenly feels need to confess something to clergy
5 Drunken melee/food fight/law enforcement called
Summary:
Dear Couple:
I provided ______ units of pastoral care at the base rate of $__________ per pastoral care unit. This totals up to $_________________ worth of pastoral and clergy services. Please make your check to _______________________and write "Discretionary Fund" in the memo line. Thank you for choosing me and my church for your wedding. I know you promised back in the counseling phase to be regular attendees of my church, but please remit in 30 days because I am pretty sure that's not going to happen, despite your good intentions. I was born in the dark, but it wasn't last night!
If Hospice Chaplains could bill like physicians...
Hospice Chaplain Coding and Billing
(by Kirkepiscatoid)
Here's how we could build in "Level of Service" if only the government would take the cue that hospice chaplains should get to bill more like physicians!
Hospice Chaplain Level of Service Billing
Instructions: For each patient encounter, choose the level of pastoral service, geographic modifier, and clinical demographic modifier that best represents the normal and customary level of service provided in the patient encounter. Remember: For proper reimbursement, level of service must be documented in hospice chaplain notes.
Pastoral Service codes:
_____P66601: Talked with patient but did not pray with patient
_____P66602: Prayed with patient (e.g., comatose, unresponsive) but did not talk with patient
_____P66603: Talked and prayed with patient
_____P66604: Provided Eucharistic services with liquid substance other than wine with at least 10% alcohol content
_____P66605: Provided Eucharistic services with wine containing at least 10% alcohol content
_____P66606: Patient died before arrival of chaplain; discussions/prayer with family
_____P66607: Funeral planning with input from not-quite-dead-yet patient
_____P66608: Funeral planning with patient already dead
_____PS6600: Level of pastoral service not otherwise specified (provide documentation)
Geographic Modifier Codes:
_____GPS001: Usual and customary ability to find patient's house
_____GPS002: Difficulty finding patient's house (e.g., faulty directions, missing road signs/street signs, very remote location)
_____GPS003: Got hopelessly lost finding patient's house, requiring use of cell phone
_____GPS004: Got hopelessly lost finding patient's house, requiring use of cell phone, in "dead cell phone" area
_____GPS005: Visit required extraordinary vehicular measures (e.g., studded snow tires, four wheel drive)
_____GPS006: Chaplain got stuck en route to visit
_____GPS000: Other geographic modifier not otherwise specified (provide documentation)
(NOTE: A 10% PENALTY exists on GPS code billing if chaplain is female and visit requires being chauffeured by a male. A 10% BONUS exists if chaplain is male and visit requires being chauffeured by a female, as most male chaplains would not admit this.)
Clinical Demographic Modifiers:
_____CH23001: Pastoral services provided to under 4 total family members in room, in addition to patient
_____CH23002: Pastoral services provided to 4 or more family members in room, in addition to patient
_____CH23003: Patient divulges deep dark family secret under the influence of narcotics during visit
_____CH23004: Chaplain breaks up verbal altercation between relatives
_____CH23005: Chaplain breaks up physical altercation between relatives
_____CH23006: Living arrangements for patient has worse than usual smells or sights associated with typical dying patient or typical home
_____CH23007: Family member "hits on" chaplain, desiring inappropriate psychological, financial, or physical relationship
_____CH23008: Chaplain visit occurs while patient, spouse/significant other and object of covert romantic relationship are all in the same room
_____CH23000: Other clinical history modifier not otherwise specified (provide documentation)